Saturday, 10 September 2016

Children and Church - Are they Disadvantaged?

Over the last day or so in the UK there has been concern expressed politically about how we educate children, about their potential, and about what they should be entitled to receive as they grow towards maturity.  Strangely, for the latter part of the week I had already decided to focus on children and church as the theme for this week’s Praise and Prayer News.

I have various thoughts running around my head, which I hope I will be able to express meaningfully within the limits of this e-letter.  But the bottom line is that we seem to get it seriously wrong in so many of our churches.

We might pay lip service to the value that God seems to place on children.  We might refer to the words of Jesus, Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.”  We might tell with wonder of the little child prophet, Samuel, or of the way that Timothy grew up knowing the scriptures from childhood and, while still relatively young, became a Christian leader.  One of our favourite stories is certain to be David and Goliath.  Though we do not know David’s exact age when he felled the giant, we tend to present him as no older than a young teenager.  Then there was little Miriam and her role in the life of her baby brother, Moses, and the little servant girl who brought about the healing of Naaman.  God clearly works in and through the lives of children as well he does with adults.

But in the life of our churches, children are usually marginalised, poorly taught, excluded from Christian service, and frequently barely tolerated.  One reason for this is the discontinuity between the kingdom of God and our churches, which we have institutionalised.  Instead of modelling our churches on the principles of the kingdom of God, we have modelled them to reflect our preferences as to how we like to worship, who can minister, and the style in which this is done. Adults today are still often doing what those early disciples did to the children (see Luke 18: 15-17) and denying them full access.

In a special service for welcoming a new minister to a Methodist Circuit recently we were informed that he had chosen the hymns except for the second hymn which his toddler daughter had chosen.  It turned out to be an action song, “Sing a song, sing a joyful song”.  When we got to the verse, “Clap your hands, clap your hands like this….” Several in the congregation clapped to the rhythm.  But when we got to the verse, “Jump up and down, up and down and around…” there was only one adult who seemed to be prepared to make a fool of himself, and sing this worship song to Jesus the way it was intended.  The rest remained dignified!  I wondered what the new minister’s family, which clearly valued the place of their little girl, might have thought if the whole congregation (or at least as many as possible) had jumped up and down, up and down and around!  What would it have signalled?  If we want to take children seriously, sometimes we need to be prepared to have a bit of fun with them, unapologetically.
In Rural Mission Solutions we try to put high value on our ministry to and with children.  My former colleague, Monica Cook, and I wrote a paper entitled Releasing the Potential (availableon the website)I am delighted that our current Children and Families Work Adviser has the same view. Our vision is to help churches developed programmes for both adults and children, that help people come to faith, grow in faith and go in faith.  Part of doing this effectively will be having some measures in place to test progress (but I’m not advocating church stats!).  But unless children are able to articulate their faith (in their own words and ways) how will we know if we have effectively communicated the gospel to them. How can we determine whether they are growing in discipleship if they are held back from opportunities to exercise the gifts and ministries that God gives to them?

At the service at Fleckney Baptist Church last Sunday I was specifically informed that one of the children would bring the offertory prayer.  He did so brilliantly. In one of my churches I occasionally had the bread and wine served by children to adults.  In an Essex church I attended once I found over 50 children running a prayer meeting before Sunday School.  In a Primary School in Sussex, Christian children asked teaching staff if they could start a Christian meeting during the lunch break.  When they were told that there would not be a teacher available they told the head teacher that was OK as they were capable of running it themselves.  And they did so!

So I appeal that we make more space in our churches for children, and that we run well designed programmes that have those three aims built in.  Let’s help children come to faith, to grow in faith and to go in faith.  Let’s make church more like the kingdom of God.  But be warned:  if we get it right, the adults might have difficulty keeping up!

From the Diary
We give God thanks and praise for the blessings on our ministry on Sunday and through the week.  We also give God thanks for some progress made at the recent Court hearing to resolve a difficult Trust management issue relating to a Will.  The trustees (of which I am one) are seeking a more manageable situation that ensures a better and safer future for a beneficiary.  But it means change – and that is resisted.  Prayers for grace and wisdom are appreciated.

This Sunday, 11th September I will be taking the morning meeting for Newark Congregational Church.

On Tuesday 13th I have a school assembly to take and my regular work in HMP Gartree.

On Thursday 15th I am taking part in a visit to a small rural church in Northamptonshire which looks likely to close.  We need to assess this situation carefully.

On SATURDAY 17th Katrina Thomas and I are holding a meeting at Herstmonceux, East Sussex in the morning, in order to introduce Katrina to friends and supporters in the area and to share the vision for her part in our ministry.  We have had a lot of apologies sent so I am hoping that there will still be a reasonable attendance.  We intend to follow up this event with some gatherings for those responsible for children’s work in rural churches.  This is part of re-launching this aspect of ministry.  This is a key activity for your prayers please.

On Sunday 18th I will be speaking at St. Leonards Baptist Church where I grew up, came to faith and was effectively sent out in ministry.  It will be great to spend time there and I hope that I bless them.

Thank you for your prayers and gifts for the work.  Please do not leave the issue I have raised about the place of children in your church (or their absence) to others.  We all need to examine our attitudes and get a serious discussion going.  Katrina and I will be happy to help you with that if needed.

May the Lord abundantly bless you.

Barry





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